The ten rules of toddler sharing
One of my two-year-old’s little friends came over to play the other day. They had an absolute ball, in spite of the fact that they spent much of the time vying for the attention of the same toy… and snack.
From toy cars, foam balls and DUPLO pieces to sandwiches, pieces of apple and bread sticks, Amelia and Asa, without fail, would always make a play for the same object. Toddler sharing just doesn’t seem to happen! It was both hilariously funny and annoying – on my part and theirs.
Why is it that children always think that what others have is better? Children… um – sure! – just children. We all outgrow this behaviour, of course.
I found it awesome that they could squabble insanely but love each other to bits all the while – and still manage to have a good time.
The equivocal character of the human child (the human being) is a wonderment that many a parent has contemplated over the years; below are ten rules (written by some such parent no doubt) of toddler sharing to which toddlers the world over prescribe:
1. If I like it, it’s mine.
2. If it’s in my hand, it’s mine.
3. If I can take it from you, it’s mine.
4. If I had it a little while ago, it’s mine.
5. If it’s mine, it must NEVER appear to be yours in any way.
6. If I’m doing or building something, all the pieces are mine.
7. If it looks just like mine, it is mine.
8. If I saw it first, it’s mine.
9. If you are playing with something and you put it down, it automatically become mine.
10. If it’s broken, it’s yours.
Nodding in agreement? Mumbling “it’s so true”? laughing out loud? – all of the above! You’re not the only one!
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