There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect parent’

It’s natural to have ideas about how you wish to parent when you’re expecting a new addition to the family. Whilst having a plan is a great idea, it’s important to be realistic and know that not everything goes to plan. Until the reality of parenthood hits, there’s no way of predicting what will happen.

There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect parent’

Firstly, there’s no such thing as a ‘perfect parent’. For a start who decides what perfect is? Every child is different, and everyone does things their own way. When it comes to parenting, there’s no right or wrong. All anyone can do is their best, and that’s good enough.


The perfect parent is a myth that many people believe in – until they become parents themselves. The ideal mother and father, a picture-book family home, with well adjusted, problem-free children. There’s just no such thing as a perfect parent, similarly, there’s also no such thing as a perfect child.


One of the most important things to remember throughout your parenthood journey is that mistakes are ok. It’s normal to feel confused, worried, scared, guilty, overwhelmed, inadequate and all kinds of other emotions. But you need to trust yourselves and your instincts. Try not to set the bar too high for yourself and try not to overanalyse the things that you do.


Social media doesn’t help either – pictures and tales of perfect days out, angelic children practising their reading and enjoying family dinners together. This isn’t a reality for most people, so don’t feel bad if you throw together something that resembles a balanced meal when in dashing around. People don’t generally post about the bad days online, so you can rest assured that the status you read,or the photo you saw, isn’t a reality for everyday parents. Social media is just a highlight reel.


The most important thing to remember is when you become a parent you don’t get a handbook or a list of instructions. While you can get ‘advice’ from a whole host of sources, you may well find yourself confused by so many conflicting opinions and different theories on how best to bring up your children. As long as you provide a loving environment, spend quality time with your little ones and do what you can to keep them safe, well and happy, then you’re as close to perfect as any parent will ever be.