There are some positive emotions like love and happiness, but there are also plenty of negative emotions like anger, jealousy and betrayal, and unfortunately we can’t control when these emotions appear.
A cute cat video posted on one person’s timeline might make them happy, while on another’s that same cat video could make them feel distraught, especially if, for example, their cat had just passed away. Or, another example, one song could make someone feel feelings of love because it was the song they danced to at their wedding, while someone else might feel intense anger because it was the song that was playing on the radio when their partner told them they’d been cheating.
One person’s happy is another person’s sad, and at times this can be awkward to say the least – distressing even; if you feel emotions strongly. If this sounds familiar, then try to remember these:
- Emotions will pass. It might take a while, but eventually the emotion you’re feeling will pass and another one will take its place.
- Emotions are not facts. When they are strong they just feel like ‘the truth’.
- There’s a big difference between feeling an emotion and acting on it. There’s nothing wrong with feeling emotions. What matters is what we do in response to them.
- When strong emotions come you don’t have to act on them; just acknowledge that you have them.
- We all have emotions because they serve important biological functions. Without emotions like fear our ancestors would never have survived predator attacks all those tens of thousands of years ago. All we can do is accept that emotions come and go.
- Emotions are not right or wrong, or good or bad. Emotions just are.